It’s that time of the year again, and the theme of 2016’s Mental Health Awareness Week is relationships. We touched upon this briefly at my first Think4Brum meeting, but I think it’s a really important – and often underlooked – aspect of mental health. Maintaining relationships can be tricky at the best of times, but when you’re dealing with a mental illness it can become more difficult to manage those important connections with loved ones. On the other side of it, those who are involved in any way with someone suffering from ill mental health also require love and support as they love and support their loved one. …I said love and support far too many times then, but you get the point.
One of the defining features of BPD is the tendency to fall into unstable relationships – something I have plenty of experience in, sadly. But that’s not to say you can never be in a stable and healthy relationship if you have borderline personality disorder. And if anyone says otherwise, then they’re just dicks. I’ve had the same said to me, and I’ve been married for over six months now. I did kiss a few frogs (and one possible sociopath) before I met my nerdy prince though, and each former relationship played a part in factors of my mental health in both positive and negative ways.
I have also had complex (and sometimes unstable) relationships with family and friends over the years too. Even my relationship with my parents was shaky at times, as much as I loved them we weren’t always on the best of terms. As I’m getting older and making myself more aware of what my condition means, it means I’m getting better at managing friendships and the relationships I have with remaining family members.
So, with this theme in mind I’m going to be writing a post every day for the whole week about my experiences in relationships while having a mental illness. Might get a little personal, but you should all know by now that I’m an open book. Should my exes be worried? Nah. Well, possibly.
As well as the daily posts on here, I will also be putting a lot of info over on this blog’s Facebook page – drop me a like! I hope this week is a good one for awareness, along with getting a conversation going about the importance of relationships and good mental health.